Frequently Asked Questions

Questions:

  • How are you, the webmaster, related to the family in this site? Answer

  • Did our family come from Ireland? Answer

  • Why do I not find any O'Kelleys living in Ireland at the time our Ancestor is believed to have come to America? Answer

  • What does the "O" and "Mac" mean? Answer

  • Is our first America Ancestor James or Thomas?  Answer

  • I am a male descendent of this family, would a DNA test benefit the family research? Answer

  • I submitted a DNA sample and many of the matches are to people with names other than Kelly, what is the deal? Answer

  • Does your site have errors?  Answer

  • Why can I not find a marriage document on some of my line?  Answer

  • Is Rev James O'Kelly related to our family? Answer

  • How did our O'Kelley name evolve?  Answer

  • Were our ancestors Catholic?  Answer


Answers

1 Question:  How are you, the webmaster, related to this family?

Answer:  I descended from Charles, Charles Dean, James Stamps, Charles Williams, Albert Henry, Conley Horton line. 

2 Question:  Did our family come from Ireland?

Answer:  My DNA results indicate that we are related to a line of Irish Kings who ruled over an area known as Ui Maine (O'Kelley country in Ireland).  I share a common male ancestor with the current living descended of Hy-Many in Ireland  between 550 and 950 years ago.

3 Question:  Why do I not find any O'Kelleys living in Ireland at the time our Ancestor is believed to have come to America?

Answer:  Before the time of King Henry VIII all of Ireland and England was Roman Catholic there was no other Christian faith.  The Irish spoke Gaelic and those that could read and write wrote mostly in Gaelic.  There were those who were highly educated that knew many languages but that wasn't true for the common Irish.  When King Henry VII broke with the pope and made himself head of the English and Irish church and had the "Great Bible" created to replace the Catholic Bible this set Ireland and England on a very long war where both sides committed many horrific acts.  Some of the ruling Irish went against their people and embraced the English and to show their loyalty they were required to learn the English language and change their name to English version which including dropping the "O" and "Mac" from their names.  I have found a very early book written by Sir James Ware that does lists o Kelley and o Kellys so it does seem that very early Gaelic to English translations could have used the double "e" spelling but that doesn't appear to have lasted very long.     It should be noted that in the 1600s and 1700s the apostrophe was not used in any English spellings of Irish surnames.  The apostrophe didn't appear until well into the 1800s.  In early English translations there was either a space between the "O" or the "Mac" or it was just spelled as OKelly.  Col Charles O'Kelly in his book published in the late 1600s lists both Kellys and Kelleys so clearly there were some who used the earlier spelling.

4 Question:  What does the "O" and "Mac" mean?

Answer:  The Irish did not have surnames as we think of them.  They referenced descendents as the "son of", "grand son of", "daughter of", or "grand daughter of".  The Gaelic spelling of the living head of the Kelly family was Ceallach so the sons were MacCeallaigh, grandsons were Ua Ceallaigh, daughters were Nic Ceallaigh, and grand daughters were Ni Ceallaigh.  Over time Ó Ceallaigh meaning descendant of Cealach came into being and that is probably the source for the English spelling of the O'Kelley name.  Because these names were not surnames as we think of surnames, when a woman married a Kelly she did not change her name because she could not become a daughter or grand daughter or descendant of Ceallach as the result of marriage.  My research indicates the double "e" spelling was the early English translation and the single "e" was a later modern translation.

5 Question:  Is our first American Ancestor James or Thomas? 

Answer:  The 1782 Virginia Census for Mecklenburg Co indicates our ancestor's name was William and this is backed up by the name of the first grandson to be born in America, the son of Charles and Mary was named William and their next child a daughter was named Elizabeth Dean.  The census only shows the head of household but because Charles doesn't appear as a head of household in this census and we know he was living in Mecklenburg at that time it seems likely that Charles and his wife Mary, their young son William and daughter Elizabeth Dean were four of the ten others living in the household of William at the time of the head of household census.  This is pretty good evidence certainly greater than the belief that James or Thomas was our ancestor. 

6 Question:  I am a male descendent of this family, would a DNA test benefit the family research?

Answer:  If you have descended from one of the other brothers, from Thomas, Francis, Benjamin, George, or William Denis the answer is yes.  If you descended from my line which is Charles then your DNA results should be almost identical to mine.  By having other males from these different lines join the Kelley project it would better tell us how we are related to other Irish Kellys.  Click on the Kelly project link and I recommend you purchase a 37 marker test which is about $150.   Only a male O'Kelley can do this, if your mother or grandmother was an O'Kelley this test will be of no benefit to the O'Kelley research.  If a descendent of Rev James O'Kelly joins the project and submits a sample it would confirm or deny his relationship to our family.   To date I know of only one such descendent and he has provided no response to my request that he submit a sample. 

7 Question:  I submitted a DNA sample and many of the matches are to people with names other than Kelly, what is the deal?

Answer:  The Irish were a warrior race. They not only fought as mercenaries in foreign wars but raided their Irish and English neighbors taking the men as work slaves and the women as sex slaves.  In those days the spoils of war also included sexually raping the women of the conquered and certainly some children were born as a result.  There are certainly some O'Kelleys who didn't descend from an O'Kelley ancestor and there are some of other surnames who did descend from an O'Kelley ancestor because of this practice and because of Irish naming customs.  We like to think of our early ancestors as these warm and gentle Christians but the truth is Christianity had little impact on the day to day behavior of many warrior races.  The word "berserk" was invented to describe how our ancestors fought.  The Romans would hire them as mercenaries and there are accounts of entire legions going into battle totally nude and fighting like men in an uncontrollable rage.   They would win just because they scared their enemy into defeat.  Another common practice to try to keep the peace between Irish clans was they would exchange their eldest sons as hostages.  This way if war broke out, the son would be killed giving each side a greater incentive to behave but this didn't work very well peace would be for a brief time and during that time the hostage son would be forced to marry one of his enemy's daughters.  Because of the way the Irish naming rules were applied an O'Kelley being held hostage by the O'Farrell clan and forced to marry a daughter of an Farrell, their off spring would bear the name of O'Farrell and not O'Kelley because of their relationship to their mother and her relationship to the clan.  It wouldn't be wise to have a flock of children in the O'Farrell clan names O'Kelley and the same tradition applied with the O'Farrell hostage held by the O'Kelley clan.   But there were other customs.  The Irish nobility would send their children to be fostered and raised by other families and Irish men held the right to return a wife and her children back to her family.  Irish women did not take their husbands name so when children were put out by their father they could and did take the name of their mother.  These customs of course makes genealogy with the Irish much more difficult and these customs are not widely known so many have no idea that they were in practice.   We can't apply our values when we are doing our research.  Source:  "The Short History of Ireland" by Dr Johnathan Bardon

8 Question:  Does your site have errors?

Answer:  Yes, nothing created by humans is perfect and certainly this site has a lot of guess work in it.  Even if the data is backed up by government documents or church records that does not mean the civil servant that created the document didn't make an error.  For example, many of the early marriage documents are probably the date the license was obtained and not the date the marriage actually occurred. 

9 Question:  Why can I not find a marriage document on some of my line?

Answer:  This is going to come as a shock to many but one of the "common law" rights that English won from their King was the ability to marry without government or church intervention. George and Martha Washington setup house and ran an notice in the local paper announcing their marriage.   For many marriage was a simple formality where the priest would say a few words and enter their names in the church registry.  State and church marriage was expensive and it has been estimated that at least 30% did not seek a state or church married because they could not afford it but some did later when they could afford it seek such a marriage which explains why sometimes children would appear born four or five years before the marriage record.  It wasn't until the early 1800s that mostly southern states began to enact marriage licensing laws as a way to prevent blacks and whites from common law marriages.  You may not find marriage records because at the time and place they may not have been required. 

10 Question:  Is Rev James O'Kelly related to our family?

Answer:  Without official documents only a DNA sample from a male descendent of Rev James O'Kelly will tell us for certain.  In my opinion there are more reason to believe he was than to believe he was not. 

  1. Rev James O'Kelly is documented by Elon University and their researchers believe he was born in Mecklenburg Co Virginia between 1735 and 1738.  Given that our ancestor is believed to have lived in Mecklenburg Co Virginia at the about the time Rev James was born gives some cause to believe he could be related to our family as this is where many of our first America born ancestors were born. 

  2. The 1838 Bible pages records the first born child of Francis O'Kelly was James OKelley and it was the tradition of the Irish to name their first born male after the paternal grandfather so clearly the name of James does appear often in our early family but it also appeared often in many early American families so by itself this has no weight but when added to the rest it can be an indicator.

  3. Peter Jefferson Kernolde's claim in his early 20th century book titled "Lives of Christian ministers: over two hundred memoirs" where he states that Rev John P O'Kelly, James O'Kelly, and Francis D O'Kelly (descendents of our family) are descendents of Rev James O'Kelly.  He doesn't support his claim with documentation so by its self this isn't a valid claim but added to everything else it makes it more possible.

  4. A George and Delilah Crowder also appears in the Elon University Rev James O'Kelly collection.   This was an 1804 marriage of John Kelley and Frances Crowder and the best man was a Charles Kelley.   The line just above this was the marriage of Frances O'Kelly and Delilah Crowder and George Crowder is mentioned indicating a possible connection.

  5. Rev James's gravestone bears the name O'Kelley and his stone was set just about the time our family began to use the O'Kelley spelling of the name.

  6. About 1904 Dr Thomas K O'Kelley submitted a Civil War Pension application and he included with that application his family tree that he reportedly copied out of one of his ancestor's bibles. We do not know who that bible belonged to but copies of Dr O'Kelley's pages have come to be known as the O'Kelley bible pages and those pages not only give our ancestor as James O'Kelley but also lists a son missing for our traditional telling of our ancestor, a son named James O'Kelley born in 1735 the same year as Rev James O'Kelly was believed to be born.  This supports item #2 above. 

11 Question:  How did our O'Kelley name evolve?

Answer:  No one can say for certain but there is considerable reason to believe that before the 1500 some translated the name into English probably because they were either exporters or importers or wealthy and educated and before the influence of the printing press most spelling was regional so one could spell their name anyway they wished.  I have found early examples where the double "e" spelling was used but after the printing press and the mass distribution of books because of profit many words and names were streamlined as to fit more words on a page.    What we do know is in Gaelic at the time our ancestor was believed to come to America the name was spelled as Ö Ceallaigh which is pronounced "O Kelley".  We know that Colla Kelly the Irish Lord of the Manor of Screen which my DNA indicates we are related changed his name at the request of Queen Elizabeth somewhere around 1601 to the English form of "Kelly" giving us an insight as to why our ancestor may have changed his name from its Gaelic form to the English form.  There were at least three other Irish lords that did the same including the Ceallach of the clan.  We know from Sir James Ware's 1705 book titled "The Antiquities and History of Ireland" that even before Colla there were Ö Ceallaighs around Galway that were using both o Kelly and o Kelley so when the Irish tell us that the double "e" spelling was never used in Ireland you can point then to Ware's book as proof that there was.  It is very likely our ancestor came to America either as Kelly or Kelley without any "O" as we see documents for first American born ancestors as Kelly and Kelley.  It appears during or after our Revolutionary War the reason to spell our name to please our English masters was no longer valid and we begin to see the impact of our newly established freedoms as the OKelly spelling of our name began to appear.  The 1838 Bible pages reveals Francis as an O'Kelly then we can see how his children were listed as OKelley then we see how his grandchildren appear as O'Kelley.  The apostrophe was never used by the Irish in the Gaelic spelling, and it only seems to appear in the English spelling in Ireland in books written after 1800.  Just like most Americans, our name has been altered to fit the need, make it easier to pronounce and to fit the every changing English rules. The apostrophe was added in the early 1800s I suspect because of the effort to standardize its use.  

I have been told that descendents of Rev James O'Kelley never used the O'Kelley spelling of our name but we know that isn't entirely true.  Rev James gravestone certainly bears "O'Kelley" although it was put there by friends and James Franklin O'Kelly appears in two US Census as an O'Kelley, I could see one mistake but not two.  I do know there are O'Kellys and O'Kelleys to appear on modern gravestones from members of the same family in OKlahoma. 

12 Question:  Were our ancestors Catholic?

Answer:  DNA proves that was true because our ancestors came from Ireland and were part of the ancestral Irish who lived in Ireland for more than 1000 years meaning our ancestors before the time of King Henry VIII or living before 1530 would have been Roman Catholic but this is a bit more complicated.  Since the founding of the Roman Catholic faith in about 325 AD there has been only one Christian church and anyone who believed something other that what that church allowed was put to death most often in one of many very cruel manners for the crime of heresy so the Irish like the English and Scots and many others living in France, Spain and other places in the world had no choice, they had to be Roman Catholic or die.  Henry VIII changed much of this over sex with a woman.  He wanted a male heir and had already put away one wife and he asked the Pope to allow him to put away a second but when the Pope refused, Henry VIII declared himself the head of the Roman Catholic Churches in England and Ireland and because France and Spain were Catholic and loyal to the Pope, Henry set about to force all the English and Irish to convert. He did not want the Irish Catholic on his west coast and the French and Spanish on his east.  Not much really changed when it came to religion, the churches and priest that converted went on pretty much the way they did before, they had to pledge their loyalty to the English King and had to use his newly created "Great Bible" but other than that church life was pretty much the same.  But that wasn't the case for those who refused to embrace Henry as the head of the church, for them great horrors were in store.  A bounty was put on the head of Irish Roman Catholic priests, they could be hunted down like a deer and killed and their body presented for a cash reward.  For the Irish people who refuse to convert, they were either killed outright or forced to America or other English colonies as indentured servants or moved to western Ireland to make room for the protestant English and Scotts who were loyal to the English Crown to settle their lands.  This is the basis for the almost 400 years of war in Ireland today between the Irish and England.  After living in Ireland for several generations some of the descendents of the Scotts and English born in Ireland came to America as Scotts Irish.  They were certainly Irish born but most shared no blood lines with the true Irish so they were not Irish in the true sense.   DNA indicates we came from the ancestral Irish, I share a common ancestor with the current descendent of Hy Maine and since we seem to have appeared in America as Protestant or following King Henry's and later King James's version of the Christian faith and our first America born ancestors were given very English given names like James, William, Thomas, Charles, and Francis I suspect we came from one of the Irish families that changed sides and went against our ancestors who would have been Catholic.  The reason our Irish family has been so difficult to find is it is possible that because of our family's loyalty to the English Kings that we may have been chased out of Ireland, many were.  It would certainly give our ancestor a reason not to want to make his descendents aware of our family's Irish history but these were very difficult times under the best of circumstances. 

We have nothing to tell us about our ancestor who came to America from Ireland, but because he came to Virginia which was at the time an English protestant colony it would seem unlikely he would have come willingly as a Catholic but I sometimes wonder if the reason we do not find early bibles of our ancestors is because those early bibles they may have had were Catholic bibles and later descendents destroyed them to hide this truth but it is also possible that our early ancestors did not have Catholic bibles because they were rare in America during their time.  There was and still is considerable friction between the two religious groups.  Nimrod, the grandson of our ancestor stood trial murder in Oregon and those court records tell us that he was a Catholic but his wife and children were protestant ut another grandson, George Washington was listed on the roles as a Baptist minister in 1813 so this seems very unclear.

It might be of interest to some to know that while King Henry VIII commissioned one of the first bibles written in the English language, The Great Bible King James had his bible created to appease the more conservative mood in England that eventually got out of hand and for about a 20 year period released a hell on earth by the way of Oliver Cromwell.  For those who would like a closer relationship between our current government and the conservative religious movement in America, they might want to go to their local library and read what life was like when conservative religion ruled England, Ireland, and much of America for that brief period of time.  Because Christmas and Easter celebrations were not in the bible, one could be fined or jailed when found to be celebrating such.  Even the possession of a mincemeat pie was a crime in both England and America during that time because it was a form of Christmas celebration.  Cromwell and his religious followers make bin laden and the Taliban appear as school children for the numbers they murdered and let us not forget that in the 1690s Salem Massachusetts hung 19 and crushed to death 1 of its innocent citizens because conservative religion was permitted to go unchecked by reason and logic.  These are probably the reason our founding fathers tried to protect us by keeping our government and our religion as far apart as possible. 

 

 


 

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